Window of Tolerance: “The best state of [nervous system] 'arousal' or stimulation in which we are able to function and thrive in everyday life. When we exist within this window, we are able to learn effectively, play, and relate well to ourselves and others.” (Dan Siegel)
- Help the student move back into their Window of Tolerance
2. Do no harm
a. Don’t ignore the student’s distress.
b. Don’t dismiss.
c. Don’t push the student harder.
3. Compassion
a. “Love the Reporter”—show that you care about their distress and take it seriously. b. Don’t be afraid to understand the distress. Use checks to understand what’s going on. c. Non-judgment, non-blame.
4. Nurture the student’s trust in themselves
a. Subtle is significant—recognize early signs that someone is moving outside their Window of Tolerance. b. Enlist the student in identifying what might help calm/ground them. c. Model self-compassion and self-respect by treating the student with compassion and respect at all times. d. Offer choices and always allow student to opt in or out.
5. Know your own limits and get help
a. Recognize if you’re moving outside your own Window of Tolerance and have self-compassion. Use your own skills to move back inside. b. Be honest about your limitations—especially if you are not a mental health professional. c. Get help. Consult with someone who is more knowledgeable. Refer the client to a specialist. Brainstorm coping skills with the client.
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